How soft strength is liberating me

I love men but I don't want to be one.

Hi hi! It’s been a year since I wrote so this is a surprise to you and me both.

I guess I’m stubborn like that as a creative; if my soul isn’t asking me then I don’t have it in me to force it. Am I stubborn or is it boundaries? Are they mutually exclusive? Hmm no. Setting boundaries is a way to be stubborn with your peace, healing and happiness.

What’s on my heart lately: soft strength

The past year I’ve been diving intimately into feminine and masculine energy: what’s different between them, how they co-exist in all of us regardless of sex and gender, and which core energy I resonate with.

This adventure has been transformative because I’ve been able to commune with my inner child for the first time since… well, childhood. I’d like to thank Fareen Ash’s book, “Secrets of the Feminine Woman” for helping me on this journey.

Most of us might already be familiar with feminine and masculine energy; we live and breathe it every day. Feminine energy is all about being whereas masculine energy is all about doing. It’s like the Moon and the Sun. The Moon is alluring and magnetic, whereas the Sun is strong and assertive.

It’s important to understand the foundation of these energies because it’s through this that I was able to identify how each energy has shaped the way I exist. Maybe it can help you too.

As a feminine woman, I was hella confused growing up in a patriarchal (male-structured) society. My nature is soft and expressive, yet I shunned most of my essence away to seem “cool”, “ambitious” and “rational”.

But let’s be real… THERE’S NOTHING LOGICAL ABOUT BEING A WOMAN IN THIS MALE-STRUCTURED SOCIETY. Ok? I said it. And if you’re still reading this, chances are you resonate with what I’m talking about on a deep level.

I love men. But I don’t want to be one!!

No, I do not want to be hustling 24/7/∞.

No, I do not enjoy forcing things to go a certain way (although I tried many times)

All of this feels heavy and off to me because I am a woman who is feminine at my core. My masculine energy is there to protect and provide for my feminine nature.

I am feminine, and I lean on my masculine for support

A woman who is integrated in her feminine and masculine energy feels like soft strength. She has an open heart and she is strong.

I’ve been consciously embracing soft strength and the process is quite simple:

1. Acknowledge the feminine within you

2. Let the masculine within you hold space for her

In real life, this could look like:

• Going into my body daily through breathing, feeling, listening

• Checking in with my inner child to see what she needs

• Responding to life from my heart vs. ego (my heart usually just wants to experience whatever I’m feeling, whereas my ego wants to be right)

• Leaning on my masculine whenever I need support (setting boundaries, removing myself from unaligned spaces, taking actions that are good for me, checking my ego and negative self-talk)

Be like water

We live in a male-structured society where a lot of us are sold one story and one blueprint. It hasn’t always been like this though and it certainly doesn’t have to be the case for you.

If you are a feminine woman and you feel oddly masculine right now… then take this as your sign to inquire and liberate. Remember, you are already whole. You’ve got the Moon and the Sun (and the rest of the Universe) within you.

Take care. Be soft. Be strong.